The Nervous System Lab
What if the way you’ve been responding to stress, pressure, and overwhelm isn’t the problem? What if it’s information?
Sundays · 9:30 AM Pacific · Live on Zoom · 8–12 participants
Get NotifiedNot another nervous system course.
A different relationship with yourself.
The Nervous System Lab isn’t about teaching you how to control yourself. It’s about helping you recognize the stories you’ve been using to interpret your experience, become curious before you become critical, and build a way of listening to your nervous system that actually makes sense to you.
For years, many of us have been taught to ask one question before any other.
“What’s happening here?”
The Nervous System Lab helps you replace that first question with the second one. Because those two questions lead to very different lives.
Before you can change a pattern, you have to notice the story that’s interpreting it. Most of us are living with assumptions we didn’t consciously choose. Maybe they sound like…
I’m too sensitive.
I always overreact.
I should know better by now.
Why can’t I just do the thing?
Everyone else seems able to handle this.
I’m just bad at being an adult.
After enough repetition, those assumptions stop feeling like stories. They become the lens through which we interpret everything we experience.
The Nervous System Lab is about learning to recognize those old assumptions before they quietly take the wheel. Not so you can fight them. So you can decide whether they still belong in this moment.
This is a laboratory, not a lecture.
You won’t spend eight weeks trying to become calmer. You’ll spend eight weeks becoming a better observer of your own experience.
Each week we’ll experiment together.
Because your nervous system gets a vote.
The breathing exercises. The EFT tapping. The body mapping. The movement. Those aren’t the point. They’re experiments, opportunities to notice something new about yourself and discover what actually works for your nervous system, not someone else’s.
The goal isn’t to leave with my toolkit. The goal is to leave knowing how to build your own.
What This Looks Like in Real Life
Your partner says something small. You snap. The old pattern shows up almost immediately.
“What’s wrong with me?”
“Why do I always do this?”
“I ruined the whole evening.”
The practice you’ve been building asks something different.
“Why did I snap?”
“Is there something else tangled up with this moment?”
“What assumption just took the wheel?”
Maybe your nervous system connected this moment to something much older. Maybe you’re exhausted. Maybe you’ve spent the entire day masking. Maybe grief walked into the room before you realized it had.
The point isn’t to excuse what happened. The point is to become curious before you become critical. Because curiosity gives you somewhere to go. Judgment rarely does.
The biggest change probably won’t happen during class. It’ll happen on an ordinary Tuesday.
Something stressful happens. Your nervous system reacts. And instead of immediately wondering what’s wrong with you, you pause. You notice. You get curious.
“Why did that land so hard? Is there something else tangled up with this moment? What assumption just took the wheel?”
You won’t always have the answer. Neither do I. But you’ll know how to begin the conversation instead of ending it with a judgment.
Not because your nervous system stops reacting. But because you’ve learned how to listen before you decide what the reaction means.
Why This Work Exists
I’m a psychology graduate, author, speaker, and late-diagnosed AuDHD adult. For years, I studied psychology, mindfulness, trauma, grief, and the nervous system because I was trying to answer the same question so many of us ask.
“Why do I keep getting in my own way?”
Every new book taught me something. Every new practice helped in some way. But when life became overwhelming, I noticed something. Even with everything I knew, my first reaction was still almost always to assume something was wrong with me.
Then, after my late diagnosis, I started asking a different question.
“What’s my nervous system trying to tell me?”
That question changed the direction of my work. I began noticing that my nervous system wasn’t simply reacting to what was happening in front of me. It was often responding to assumptions it had learned years earlier. Assumptions about safety. About belonging. About failure. About what I had to do to be accepted.
Those assumptions had been running quietly in the background for so long they no longer felt like assumptions. They felt like reality.
As I learned to recognize when an old assumption had quietly taken the wheel, I stopped trying to push it out of the driver’s seat. Instead, I got curious about why it had reached for the wheel in the first place. That curiosity created space. Space to notice. Space to understand. Space to choose a response instead of automatically repeating an old pattern.
That practice became the foundation of this work. I don’t believe most people need more information. I think most of us have spent years gathering information while still interpreting our experience through old assumptions that no longer fit who we are.
The work isn’t learning to override your nervous system. It’s learning to recognize when an old assumption has quietly taken the wheel, become curious before becoming critical, and decide whether that assumption still belongs in this moment.
That’s the practice we’re building together in the Nervous System Lab.
Who This Is For
This space is for adults who are tired of trying to fix themselves and ready to start understanding themselves. Maybe you’ve spent years collecting pieces of the puzzle. Therapy helped. Books helped. Meditation helped. You understand more than you used to. And yet somehow, in the moments that matter most, you still find yourself caught in the same patterns. Not because you aren’t trying. Because understanding something intellectually isn’t always the same as knowing what to do when your nervous system takes over.
You might find yourself here if…
You’re late-diagnosed, self-identified, or questioning whether neurodivergence explains experiences you’ve carried your whole life
You’ve lived through grief, trauma, burnout, or life changes that have reshaped how you move through the world
You’re exhausted from masking, pushing through, or trying to be who everyone else seems to need you to be
You’ve spent years wondering why you know so much about yourself but still struggle to work with yourself
You’re looking for practical ways to understand your experience, not another list of things you’re doing wrong
You want to learn alongside people who understand what it feels like to question themselves first
How the Eight Weeks Work
We’re not spending eight weeks trying to fix your nervous system. We’re building a different relationship with it.
Each week builds on the one before it. We’ll begin by understanding the stories your nervous system has been carrying for years. Then we’ll learn how those stories show up in your body, your relationships, your decisions, and the way you move through everyday life.
Along the way, we’ll experiment with practices like breathwork, EFT tapping, body mapping, bilateral movement, and nervous system regulation exercises. Not because these are the “right” tools. Because they’re opportunities to notice something new, to ask different questions, to discover what actually works for your nervous system.
By the end of the eight weeks, you won’t have memorized a system I expect you to follow forever. You’ll have begun building one that belongs to you.
What the Eight Weeks Build
Your System Has a Story
- Learn to name what your nervous system is actually doing
- Start building your Personal Narrative Timeline
What You’ve Been Carrying
- Start noticing what’s actually happening without beating yourself up about it
- Learn to separate what you feel from what you’ve been told it means
The Body Knows First
- Learn to read what your body is telling you before your brain catches up
- Connect what you notice in your body to patterns in your timeline
Becoming Your Own Guardian
- Build an internal voice that helps you recover, not one that piles on
- Get clear on what actually fills you back up versus what just gets you through
Rewriting Without Erasing
- Learn to hold your full history without needing to wrap it up neatly
- Find more to pay attention to without pretending the hard stuff wasn’t real
Noticing in Real Time
- Put everything you’ve learned to use in real situations
- Find the space between something happening and how you react to it
Choosing How You Respond
- Pull everything together into one sequence you can actually use
- Walk away with a daily practice that takes under five minutes and works anywhere
This Is Where You Begin
- Look back at everything you’ve built and put it in your own words
- Close with intention: one thing you’re choosing to stop fighting, one thing you’re moving toward
The Details
Why so small? Because this isn’t meant to be another course where you disappear into a crowd. The conversations matter. The questions matter. Getting to practice alongside other people who understand matters.
Everyone deserves enough space to be heard.
This round of the Nervous System Lab is full. Because the group stays small, spots don’t come around often. Join the waitlist and I’ll let you know as soon as the next round opens.
Get NotifiedYou don’t have to get everything right.
You don’t have to stop reacting. You don’t have to become perfectly calm. You don’t have to get everything right. You just need somewhere different to begin.
If you’ve spent years asking,
“What’s wrong with me?”
maybe it’s time to practice asking a different question.
“What’s happening here?”
That single question has changed the way I understand my nervous system. It continues to change my life. I’d love to help you begin asking it, too.
Frequently Asked Questions
Yes. The Nervous System Lab is designed as a live, shared experience. When you join, you’re making a commitment not only to yourself, but also to the other people in the Lab who will be learning alongside you.
Of course, life happens. If you need to miss a session, you’re welcome to continue with the remaining weeks. However, there are no make-up sessions, refunds, or credits for missed live sessions.
No. The Lab is intentionally designed as a live experience. Knowing that what is shared stays within the group helps create a space where people can participate openly and honestly.
You’ll still have access to that week’s materials and can continue with the remaining sessions. While you’ll miss the live discussion, you’re welcome to rejoin the group the following week.
The Lab is designed to be a safe space where you can participate in whatever way feels right for you.
Some people enjoy sharing their thoughts out loud. Others prefer to listen, reflect, or encourage others in the chat. All of those are valid ways to participate.
You will never be put on the spot or expected to share. You’ll always be invited, and you can choose what feels comfortable for you.
Each session is approximately 75 minutes.
Your Zoom link is always available inside your course dashboard under that week’s session.
I’ll also email the Zoom link a few hours before each session so it’s easy to find when it’s time to join.
Each week’s short introduction and question are available inside the course before our live session so you have time to reflect if you’d like.
I do ask that you wait to explore future weeks until after we’ve completed the current week’s session. The Lab is designed as a shared experience, and each week’s conversation builds on the one before it.
Yes. Each session has its own discussion area where you can ask questions, share reflections, and connect with the other members of the Lab throughout the eight weeks.
Simply reply to any email you’ve received from me. Those emails come directly to me, and I’ll do my best to help as quickly as I can.
Yes. You can choose either to pay in full or use the three-month payment plan.
If you choose the payment plan, your first payment is charged when you register. The remaining two payments are charged automatically on the same date over the following two months.
If an automatic payment can’t be processed, Payhip will automatically retry the payment and notify you by email.
If you’re having trouble updating your payment method or run into any difficulties, please get in touch as soon as possible so we can work through it together.
Because places in the Nervous System Lab are intentionally limited, all registrations are final.
If you’re unable to attend before the Lab begins, please reach out as soon as possible. While I can’t guarantee an exception, I’ll always do my best to help when circumstances are genuinely beyond your control.
Once the Lab has begun, refunds are not available for missed sessions, partial attendance, or unused course access.
No. The Nervous System Lab is an educational group where we’ll learn, reflect, and explore together.
While many people find this work personally meaningful, it is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for mental health care. If you’re working with a therapist, you’re very welcome to bring what you learn in the Lab into those conversations.
The Lab is for people who want to better understand themselves and are willing to approach that process with curiosity.
You don’t need any prior knowledge about nervous systems. Just a willingness to show up, participate in whatever way feels right for you, and learn alongside others.
